Gila Brown,  Parent Coach,  gila@gilabrown.com  310.497.7461
“Getting our child to take our cues, follow directions, or respect our values should not require strain and struggle or coercion.” -- Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.

3 Easy Ways to Survive Back to School

  • September 27, 2011 12:21 pm

School’s been in session for a few weeks now, and the allure of the shiny new school supplies is slowing waning.  So, here are some basic tips to survive the reality of back-to-school setting in.

1. Make friends with the teachers.

Parents Battling Trains

  • August 31, 2011 7:23 pm

Someone once told me that life is like a speeding train. When it comes at you with a challenge, you have two choices. You can stand in front and try to stop it. Or, you can jump on board and go for the ride. While I think this metaphor provides us with a good plan for just about any of life’s challenges, when it comes to parenting, it’s even more appropriate.

Budding Entrepreneurs: Top Five Skills Your Kid Will Learn From A Lemonade Stand

  • August 18, 2011 2:29 pm

I always stop for a lemonade stand. Regardless of whether or not I actually want a Dixie cup filled with sugary water, supporting the budding entrepreneur always inspires me. I love watching the little ones take charge.

“What can I get you?”
“That’ll be 50 cents, please.”
“Here’s your change… and a napkin.”

You Deserve a Break: 6 Easy Ways to Slow Your Roll

  • August 4, 2011 2:22 pm

When my Internet connection went out today, I found myself at a complete loss. When I am not on the phone, working directly with my clients, the bulk of my work requires an Internet connection. Without one, I wasn’t able to do much of what I thought I needed to accomplish today. So, what did I do? I moved through my day more slowly. With a shorter to-do list, I found myself able to work at a much more comfortable pace. I was able to enjoy a leisurely latte break, and I even found time to listen to a CD that I had been wanting to listen to… but just “didn’t have the time”.

Double-Action Monster Spray

  • July 19, 2011 5:09 pm

Monsters are very real. Whether we can see them or not, they exist, if nowhere else, then in the minds of young kids. The fact that they are so elusive and hard to locate, only makes them that much scarier.

In Search of Oak Trees

  • July 6, 2011 1:28 pm

Remember the last time you tried leaning back on something that wasn’t quite firmly attached to the ground? You leaned with some of your weight, but not all of it. You knew that if you leaned back too far, you’d fall. You might even have used your abdominal muscles to hold yourself up. If you compare that feeling to one of leaning back on a large, oak tree, the feeling is quite different. You know the oak isn’t going anywhere. You can relax and put all your weight on it. You won’t fall. It will hold you up.

On Miscarriages: A Personal Story

  • June 29, 2011 8:15 pm

Two years ago this month, I had a miscarriage. I was 12 weeks pregnant at the time. Having a miscarriage is an all-consuming and unique experience in that it encompasses both physical and emotional loses.  The toll it takes on your body is extraordinarily taxing, all the while your heart is grappling to make sense of it all.

Pesky, Monstrous, Snot-Nosed Liars

  • June 9, 2011 1:47 pm

In May, the Huffington Post printed an article announcing that the restaurant Panera deemed a Pay-What-You-Want Location a success. In other words, this restaurant allows patrons to pay that they thing is fair for their meal. According to the article, 60 percent leave the suggested amount; 20 percent leave more; and 20 percent less. This model sounds absurd. How can the establishment trust that they will not lose money if they rely on patrons to chose their own price?

Reinstating Do-Overs

  • May 3, 2011 1:17 pm

Remember ‘do-overs’? As kids, whenever a game was started, after just a few moves, someone would misstep and request a do-over. Usually, this was a result of a misunderstanding of the general rules of the game. Occasionally, requesting a do-over was sometimes misconstrued as cheating. This was based on the thinking that there is only one chance to get things right and that we should all be expected to make the right moves the first time around. As adults, we’ve all experienced events that prove how unrealistic that plan actually is.  So, I motion to reinstate the do-over option; not just for board games, but for the real life game of parenting.

Don’t Think About A Pink Elephant.

  • April 23, 2011 10:10 am

What are you thinking about right now?  What’s the first image that pops into your head? A pink elephant. In order to not-think of a pink elephant, you first have to think about a pink elephant in order to know what not to think about.